A Single Life

Ways to Tap In Help
The Clearing Cure

The single life! There are some married people who are jealous of it. Teenagers idolize it. And most single people hate it. So, what is it about single life that is so intriguing to some and so miserable to others? You find dating sites galore hocking their unique way of setting up individuals and where to meet single men or women--Christian singles, professional singles, “hot” singles; you name it, it’s out there. Plus, every topic on singles has been hashed and rehashed so many times that you’re probably thinking by now that this is just one more of those “how to” articles and just one more thing that will tell you something that you just don’t want to hear any more.

In my arena, that of energy work, I have discovered firsthand the overwhelming fear that surrounds the single life. It envelops most singles: fear of dating; fear of meeting someone like their ex; fear of not being attractive to someone; fear of another failed relationship; fear of not attracting the right kind of man/woman; fear of not being confident enough; fear of rejection; fear of never finding someone; fear that you don’t deserve to find love. It’s never ending. These fears are brought up from past relationships, past trauma, memories of past relationships, or even memories of what you watched in a relationship such as that of your mother and father. We sometimes call this “baggage” in a relationship—past things that keep triggering us to behave in a certain way. It’s a learned behavior. However, if we envelope ourselves in this fear, we will draw to us exactly what we fear.

One thing that creates this fear inside is low self-esteem. When you have so many relationships go bad, or never even have had a relationship, then automatically the subconscious comes into play and the thought gets stuck in there that “you” are the reason. The thought is that if I were prettier, more bubbly or engaging, then I would have been able to find someone (or kept someone), and since that isn’t the case, something MUST be wrong with me.

Another aspect of dating that I have found very disturbing is what I call the “Johnny Lingo Syndrome.” I saw a video back when I was in my teens called “Johnny Lingo.” It’s the story of a Polynesian man who is of marrying age and is the biggest catch on the Island, so everyone is talking about which woman he will marry. In this culture, the man offers to the father of the woman he wants to marry a gift, and the bigger the gift, the more prestigious the woman is. Four or five cows were considered to be top price.

Well, in the movie, Johnnie Lingo goes to the father of the woman he desires to take to wife. Now the woman who has caught his eye is a very shy girl who doesn’t think a lot of herself. She hides behind the trees and never really makes eye contact with anyone. Her father is verbally abusive and consistently tells her how ugly she is. When Johnny Lingo comes to her father, the father thinks he will be able to negotiate maybe two or three cows, but everyone knows he is a fool and will never get that. However, Johnny Lingo, to the father’s astonishment, offers him ten cows for his daughter. The father gladly accepts this offer and, so, after the marriage, Johnny and his bride leave for a three-month honeymoon. When they return from the honeymoon, to everyone’s surprise, she is a confident, absolutely beautiful young woman, which makes the father angry as he realizes he should have bid a lot more for her.

Of course, the moral of this movie is wonderful. It shows what unconditional love can do for a person. If loved unconditionally, without fear of condemnation or emotional attack of any sort, a person can become what lies within her/him. The thing that is not stated, however, and what people fail to realize is that she made the CHOICE to change. If she had still chosen to live with the fear that enveloped her, she never would have changed. She would be stuck in that fear cycle, constantly on guard, questioning every move he made. As a friend of mine put it, “Johnny Lingo’s bride was loved with a pure heart, but she had to open up (choose) to receive that love.”

The “syndrome” part of this is when women and men, who live in this fear-bound state, wait for this wonderful person to come along and sweep them off their feet (loving them unconditionally and believing that everything will be great at that point with no problems at all), they typically make the mistake of not doing anything at all to make themselves more attractive, or release the fear that keeps them bound, believing that when they find the right person, they will know it, and “love” will make everything right. Yet, the fears keep them so unable to trust and venture forth in the world that love continues to elude them and they’re left wondering why.
So, let’s chat a bit about opening up and letting go of that fear. Let me introduce you to a tool called “psychological acupressure.” This is a tool that allows you to release those fears and traumas and open yourself up for new experiences, instead of holding onto the old ones. It does not entail using needles as in traditional acupuncture. You actually tap, using two to three fingers tapping continuously in one area, while making a psychological statement and asking the body to release these emotions.

When you have traumas or experiences they create memories. If those memories are emotionally charged, they go into your energy system emotionally charged and will eventually deposit themselves wherever you are weakest in your body. An example would be if you broke up with a person with whom you were in a relationship while eating dinner. Your stomach would be trying to digest food while you’re dealing with this emotional trauma, and thus would be a weak point, so the fear of never being safe in a relationship would settle into your stomach. This point would then be triggered every time you felt uneasy in a new relationship and feared that the relationship would not be going anywhere, with the result being an upset stomach. However, when you are able to release that emotionally-charged memory of all of the fear and safety issues, your stomach problems will get better.

Other things also come into play with this. When you emotionally charge a memory, your subconscious will take it and find ways to protect you as well, so you don’t feel the fear again. It will choose to hold onto this fear, even if you consciously decide you want to let it go. If you think of your subconscious as a mega- processing computer and your conscious self as a little bitty desktop PC, then you can see how changing your subconscious mind might be a bit hard. This is what happens when you feel you have no “will power.” You are basically fighting your subconscious. You may want to do something, but it does not.

Releasing these fears and traumas and reversing the subconscious mind are actually easy things to accomplish if you know how. To begin with, you have to reverse your subconscious and basically ask permission to release the fear or safety issues you felt at that time. If you don’t do this first, then using the psychological acupressure and tapping out the issues will not be effective, as your subconscious will basically overrule anything you try to release. To get it to release you basically have to try a little bit of “reverse psychology.”

To do a reversal you simple make a statement while continuously tapping on an area that acts like a telephone circuit board for your body. The one we will use for this purpose is the karate chop point. This is on the edge of the pinky side of the hand, the edge that hits the board when doing a karate chop. You take two fingers from one hand and tap on the side of the other hand while making a reversal statement.

The reversal statement comes in two parts. You have an “Even though I don’t want to do this thing,” and the second part is a positive affirmation of, “I’m okay.” So, to reverse yourself in giving up a certain fear would look like this, “Even though I don’t want to give up this fear of dating, I’m okay.” (While tapping on the karate chop point.) That’s it. Nothing else. Very simple and straight forward.

The second half is the actual tapping sequence. This is the EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) sequence. Your setup statement will begin on the karate chop point and be something like this, “Even though the thought of dating scares me to death and envelops me with fear, I deeply and completely accept myself.” We do not use the word “don’t” in these setup statements, as that is only done in a reversal. You make this statement three times while continuously tapping on the karate chop point. That is the setup statement.

Then you continue on by tapping the negative statement at each meridian point, i.e. the inner eyebrow, outer eyebrow, under the eye, under the nose, on the chin, on the collarbone, and under the arm. This statement for the above example would be, “I am too afraid to date,” or “dating scares me to death.” You always state the negative thing in order to clear it from your meridians and open up the pathways so that positive stuff can then be allowed to flow freely. When you finish with the under the arm point, you then tap on the crown of the head and make a positive statement like, “I choose to release this fear of dating and find enjoyment and peace with these thoughts.”

This is a very basic, quick run through of how to alleviate fears and clear your energy system of them. It is a tool that is very powerful and can change your life, the only thing is … you have to learn it and remember to use it!

So, you are now EMPOWERED with a tool that can change your dating life. The positive energy you send out is what you draw to you. You can, however, choose to tap, or not to tap, but I have now given you the key. The next step is yours.

Emotions and Diabetes

Ways to Tap In Help

The Clearing Cure

To most people, emotions and diabetes are two things that are not usually associated with each other. Whether you have juvenile diabetes, adult onset diabetes, type I diabetes, or type II diabetes, emotions or trauma questions do not usually come up when visiting with a doctor. The methods of choice for “maintaining” this disease are drugs and a few diet modifications.

One of the biggest mistakes that I believe doctors make in relation to diabetes is their failure to emphasize strongly enough the “diet” part. Type II diabetes is one that can be totally corrected with a good diabetic diet and proper exercise. However, this can still be an ongoing problem with people, as getting rid of sugar, most grains, and processed foods from your diet is a very difficult thing to do, although many have done this and reaped the rewards of reversing their diabetes entirely. Diet can even control gestational diabetes in pregnant mothers, if you can get past the food cravings and morning sickness.

There is also a study out that has shown black tea to be of help for diabetics. The polysaccharides in black tea and some green teas have been shown to benefit people because they help retard the absorption of glucose.

I could go on and on about studies being done to help those with diabetes. I could even get more into the “why” or “how” you get this disease, but, for this article, we are going to concentrate on the relationship of emotions to diabetes.

So, what do emotions have to do with diabetes?

Whenever you experience a trauma, or an emotionally charged event, those emotions attached themselves to some part of your body—and usually at its weakest point. If diabetes runs in your family, then a trauma or emotionally charged event could trigger the diabetes. If your kidneys are “weak,” those emotions will attach themselves to that area, suppressing the kidneys ability to function at full capacity. If the emotion is triggered again and again over the years, it will continue to affect the function of the kidneys, which will then lead, at some point, to the diagnosis of diabetes.

There are also emotions that seem to be drawn more to the kidneys than other parts of the body. In fact, there are several books on the market that point out what these emotions are. My personal favorite is Karol Truman’s book, Feelings Buried Alive Never Die. In this book, she carefully documents the emotions she has found to be prevalent in the kidneys. These emotions are ones of judging yourself or others severely; being disappointed in life; having ongoing feelings of sorrow; dealing with emotional shock; feeling a complete lack of joy in your life; believing that life should have been different; being obsessed with wanting to control everyone and everything; and being ashamed of something you did in the past.

So, having documented all of these emotions, does that mean someone with diabetes has all of these? No. Each person is different. One person may react to some of the emotions stated above and find that it really fits them; another person may respond completely differently. However, in my research, I have found that diabetics do react to at least one or two of these emotions and thus have that emotion buried quite deep inside, repressing it into the kidneys, which then suppresses its functioning capabilities.

With that being said, how do you fix the problem? How do you free the kidneys from the suppressed emotions?

One way is with psychological acupressure. This is an extremely effective tool for clearing out emotional baggage attached to specific organs. This is a tool that can also correct other things in relation to the diabetes, not just the emotions suppressing the kidneys. Diabetes is not just a problem of sugars. It is also a problem of how your leptin and insulin signal each other. Psychological acupressure can also be used in this area—to ask your body to correct this problem. You can also correct allergies with this process. Most diabetics are allergic to their own insulin and leptin, thus clearing this allergy can allow your body to regulate them more effectively.

Let’s take just one example of how to tap out these emotions from your kidneys. Take the emotion of being ashamed of something you did in the past. You would first start with the reversal to make sure your subconscious is okay with your releasing it from your body. To do this, you simply apply a little bit of reverse psychology, hence the term “reversal.” You take the karate chop area on your body (the side of your hand that connects with the board when doing a karate chop) and using two fingers of your opposite hand you tap continuously on this point while making a statement. This statement consists of an “even though I don’t want to do this” part, and an “I’m okay” part. You state, “Even though I don’t want to give up being ashamed for all these things in my past, I’m okay.” That’s it. Just one time and you are reversed.

This actually must be done prior to clearing any memories or emotions, as the subconscious will not allow you to release it if it feels you are not safe or protected. Telling your subconscious that you don’t want to give this up, but that you are okay even if you do, is the reverse psychology statement and allows the subconscious to be okay with your releasing this energy.

When a person tells me that he/she has no will power, or just can’t find the desire to motivate himself/herself to do something, it tells me that he/she is working against his/her subconscious and needs to reverse it in order to have that power to do what he/she needs to do. If you think about the subconscious as a mega computer that processes everything, and your conscious state is a small desk model, then you can see how trying to overpower that mega computer could be a hard thing to do. A reversal simply makes sure that both the conscious and subconscious minds are in sync.

After doing the reversal, you are now ready to clear out the emotion. This is the same kind of setup, but you make the statement without using the word “don’t” in there, as you have already reversed it. The statement would consist of something like this, “Even though I am so ashamed of things I have done in my past, and this is living in my kidneys, causing it to not function properly, I deeply and completely accept myself.” This time, however, you are going to make that statement three times while continuously tapping on your karate chop point.

Then, you continue this process by going through the EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) set up by taking two fingers and tapping on the inside corner of your eye and making the statement, “I am ashamed of all of the things from my past.” You then continue making this same statement at each of the points, i.e., outside corner of the eyebrow, under the eye, under the nose, on the chin, on the collarbone point, and, finally, under the arm. You then tap on the crown of your head and make a positive statement such as "I choose to let this feeling release from my body.”

As you do this, really listen to your mind and write down any memories that might come up of your being ashamed of something you did. Then, using this same technique, clear out each of these memories from your kidneys. As you release these emotions, it allows your kidneys to begin to function properly again, thus enabling your body to handle sugars more effectively.

So, you are now EMPOWERED with a tool that can change your life. The positive energy you send out is what you draw to you. You can, however, choose to tap, or not to tap, but I have now given you the key. The next step is yours.

I am now on day 5 of my fast phase and really feel stoked! I went in yesterday and was weighed and actually lost 4 lbs! Woo Hoo! LOL I only had a few minutes to talk to the coach, but she was great. She was very helpful, explained things I asked about very intelligently, and was very supportive.

I then went back to talk to the trainer. His name is Thomas Clayton. I have to tell you, I am very impressed. After explaining my situation and how much I have worked out with very little to show for it and how I get on these plateaus and just cannot budge myself off of them, he told me a few things that were very exciting. I want to share them, so I hope I do it some justice. LOL

First of all, I am working out too hard. There is a point when you exercise where you are pretty much burning in an anaerobic state and burning carbs, not fat. I pretty much miss the fat burning stage all together because I like to exercise with intensity. So, I need to back up a bit and we need to find that narrow range where my body is burning fat, not carbs, and keep my body in that range for a few weeks to retrain it and then I can do two workouts at my fat burning baseline and then progress to intensity training at various levels per week and keep my fat burning going.

He explained it this way…..if you try to build a fire and just put on a big log, throw some gasoline on it, and then light it, you will pretty much burn off all of the gasoline and then it will go out and very little of the log will actually burn. However, if you start with your base and get your little teepee with twigs and brush and really add a lot of fuel to get the fire going, then when you put on the log, it will burn and burn for a long time. Very simplistic way to state it, but very effective, at least for me. LOL I totally understand this and am actually excited to learn about it. It explains a lot!

I really do like to get physical and get very intense and lift weights, run, dance, whatever, I like to get into it. However, you would never know that by just looking at me. Let’s just say, I’m squishy. LOL I feel squishy. When I was lifting weights I was tone underneath and I could feel that my arms and chest were not so “squishy” anymore, but the fat would just not come off on top of it. LOL So, this was great news for me.

I have set up next Wednesday to go in and get a test to see where my “fat burning” range is and then train with him on a new system. It’s a bunch of straps with ways you can utilize them, and your body weight, to create a great workout for all parts of the body. These were created by Navy Seals, so I am actually quite excited to learn about it. This session with the trainer is extra for the test and the training, but it is only $40.00, less than a doctor’s test for sure, and I feel it will be invaluable for what I need to learn. So, I’m biting the bullet and doing it.

So, I did have a good discussion with him on the leptin and cortisol levels in the body. I do tap to correct these and they do play a major role in your body’s ability to “realize” that it needs to lose fat, not muscle. These are hormones that regulate quite a bit in the body and are very important. He also told me a great deal about the role of testosterone and its importance. I learned quite a bit.

So, food wise, I am doing great. I have had no problems staying on this so far. I have had a few times of feeling like I wanted to eat, but not because I was hungry, so tapping those times out have been good. Basically, it’s just realizing that I want to eat for an emotional need not for the need for food. Once you can make those connections, it’s easy to tap it out. Just have to make sure to do a reversal first, as more often then not when it comes to emotional stuff, your body does not want to let go of it.

Hey, also, great news!! I just had my two articles on the effects of stress on your body with regards to weight loss, and what your fat is really saying to you published on E-Zine again! Totally cool!!!! Here are the links if you would like to go to them.

http://EzineArticles.com/?id=2795510
http://EzineArticles.com/?id=2796413

Hugs to all,
Karen

So, here I am again. Day 6 and my first day on Phase II. I haven’t been able to get with the coach yet, but that is entirely my fault. Just too much going on these two days, but I hope to tomorrow. This phase is a bit different. You have set things to eat, and you have to eat it all and take the supplements as well. It is geared to get your metabolism retrained and back in high gear. I know that is one of my big problems, so I am hoping this is going to work.

The only thing I have had to tap out today is the fact that I am restless and keep wandering into the kitchen looking for something else to eat. I know I am not hungry, I am stressed and needing to slow down. So, I have tapped on my amygdala a few times today to relief the stress and relax my stress response. Otherwise, digestion is out the window. I have also tapped out, “Even though I feel restless and just want to eat something to fill the void, I deeply and completely accept myself.” That helped a great deal with calming my mind down about wanting to eat, even though I was not hungry.

As far as staying on the diet, I really have not had any problems today at all. I am very focused. I spent yesterday tapping on focus and motivation issues, making sure I was ready for today. Motivation is a huge part of this program. I had to tap in my ability to focus and staying centered on my goals. Then tap out anything that came up in the back of my mind that said I couldn’t do it. Those are the gremlins that love to keep you from succeeding. I know them well.

One issue I have to tap out is finding time to exercise. I have been so busy it has been impossible for several days. However, today I realized I could talk on the phone with people and walk at the same time. LOL Movement, Jed says it is the crucial component, so I decided to at least move. It may not be a concentrated exercise where I focus on it, but it helps me move and get going in some way. It actually felt good to walk a mile while trying to find out information on the phone. I didn’t feel like I was wasting time, I actually did something with the time. I am, however, looking forward to meeting with the trainer on Friday and getting some more ideas.

At this point in past years, a lot of emotional stuff would be coming up. I have tapped out quite a few issues, so I thought I would address a few of those, knowing that at about this point I would be having issues. Some of the issues I know that I dealt with were things like, my body keeping the weight on to protect me against getting hurt again, or if I am fat then men will not pay attention to me and I’m safe. Safety and protection are HUGE issues with regards to weight and why your body holds onto it so much. I remember vividly my first husband telling me that I was “putting on a few pounds” after having my second baby. I literally had to tap that out and tell my body I was okay to let it go, because I was okay with who I was now and didn’t need it anymore for protection.

Those are just a few issues, but they are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to reasons why your body holds on to the weight. There are also issues to tap out in relation to how you view your body as well. I think I will have to do that tomorrow because that is something I still have issues with. LOL I have just recently allowed my picture to be taken again. So, yes, I know I still have some issues there.

Until then, think positive thoughts and focus on your picture of what you want your life to be. I am!
Karen