Wow, it's that time of year again. For me the Holidays are wonderful. I truly enjoy being with my family and having my children around enjoying just being together. However, there are stresses that affect the Holidays and even affect me during them as well.
For me, my biggest stressor is being single. It is so much fun to have someone to snuggle with by the fire. :) Singles, for whatever reason, even widows and widowers, face lonely times during the time of year where being together with families is highlighted and your family is minus a member. Other stressors for me include just the overwhelming things you have to do during the Holidays. All of the work parties, Church parties, regular parties, finding time to shop, wrap, decorate, etc. It can be very overwhelming.
The thing to remember in all of this is to tap out those stressors before they become big problems like stomach aches, migraines, leg pains, backaches, etc. Emotional stresses can become very physical pains if we let them. So, make sure you tap out all of these emotional problems before they get that way. Look at my article under Habit Breakers on Holiday Blues and see how to do this.
My hope in you doing this is that you will find some measure of JOY in your Holidays this year and that your stress level is manageable, so that you can enjoy them.
As this is also the season to serve and help others, I am in my tradition also offering free classes on clearing Holiday Blues and tapping out fears of being single and alone during the Holidays this month and next month will be doing one specifically for Vets and their loved ones. If any of you know people in this situation, let them know about this and I would love to have them along.
I wish you the most wonderful Thanksgiving and joyous time with your family this year.
Hugs to all,
Karen
Sunday, November 1, 2009
Holiday Blues and Everyday Stress
How to use acupressure to tap in healing!
Ways to Tap In Help
The Clearing Cure
Are you dreading the Holidays? Do the names Christmas and Thanksgiving create stress just by the mere mention of the names? To some the Holidays bring up issues with family, having to be around them, having to get along, meeting new people, in-laws, deaths of loved ones, etc. To others it’s the loneliness and not having anyone to enjoy it with. Then to others it is the money situation, dealing with buying gifts, too many parties, too much to do, etc. Any way you look at it, the Holidays can create stress and depression.
Some of the situations above can also create emotions that are called “limiting beliefs.” These are beliefs that keep us stuck in a cycle. Most of these thought processes or beliefs are ones that lie deep in our subconscious, only rearing their ugly head when we attempt to move past them, or when they are triggered like during the Holiday period. They are very powerful beliefs. Some of these beliefs would be things like, “I will never have enough time to accomplish everything,” “I will never be happy without someone to spend the Holidays with,” “my in-laws will never understand me,””I will never be happy again during the Holidays since my husband died,” and “I hate parties, I’m just not a party person.”
Whether you are confronting “limiting beliefs” or just dealing with the stress of the situation, acupressure can help; however, they can be dealt with in two separate ways. One is using techniques like psychological acupressure to clear out trauma, beliefs, loneliness, etc., and one is more designed to just boost you through emotional times, limiting the stress response in the body and enabling you to get through some stressful moments. I would like to address the stressful situations first.
There are several acupressure points that are designed specifically to deal with stress. The kind of stress is what is important to identify. There are usually five categories of stress to identify. One is the “garbage” stress where you have a swallowed negative emotion. Something that is just useless stress, like saying something stupid and you can’t get it out of your mind. The second kind of stress is familial stress. This also includes people you have taken into your emotional family. The third kind of stress is empathy stress. This is where you try to share someone else’s burden, such as parents with sick children, doctors with patients, a husband taking on his wife’s emotions, etc. The fourth kind of stress is dumped stress, where customers/neighbors, etc dump their emotions on your shoulders and you assume them. The fifth kind of stress is very similar to the dumped stress, but is a family dumped stress, dealing specifically with family.
After identifying which kind of stress you are dealing with, you now are ready to tap out some of that stress. When using acupressure points, you simply tap on the point using two to three fingers and stimulate the meridian underneath it. Meridians are like the veins and arteries of your energy system. They go throughout your whole body and carry an energetic current. Where they come to the surface is what is called an acupressure point and is where you tap.
The points to tap for the stress of garbage that are useless negative emotions that we carry with us, are the xiphoid, glabella, and then your forehead. You tap the xiphoid process six to seven times, which is the end of the sternum where your ribs end, the pointy part, and then tap the glabella, which is in-between your eyebrows six or seven times, and then hold your emotional trigger points for 20 seconds. These points lie in the middle of your forehead just above your eyes. You take two fingers and hold those two points above your eyes for 10-20 seconds.
The other points are all very similar. For familial stress you tap on the xiphoid process six or seven times, and then the liver point, which is right under the right breast, tap this point using the edge of your hand six or seven times, and then the glabella (in-between the eyes) six or seven times. Then hold the emotional trigger points on your forehead for 10-20 seconds as well.
The empathy points are the end of the xiphoid and the third eye point, which is middle of the forehead, and then holding the emotional correction points in the middle of the forehead for 10-20 seconds. Dumped emotional points are the xiphoid, the spleen point, which is under the left breast just to the left of the line of the nipple and in line with the xiphoid, your third eye point, as above, and then holding the emotional corrections points on your forehead for 10-20 seconds. Family dumped is the xiphoid, the spleen, the liver, third eye point, and then emotional correction points for 10-20 seconds. Remember to tap each point six to seven times and hold the emotional correction points for 10-20 seconds.
So, what do you do now for the trauma, and limiting beliefs. If some of the questions above triggered a response and you would like to get past that, then let me introduce you to the new world of “psychological acupressure.” Acupressure itself is known worldwide for targeting blocks in our energy system and clearing that point, thus enabling the energy to flow freely and allowing our body to heal itself. Psychological acupressure is the same concept, only it begins with the belief that emotions have an energetic charge and get stuck somewhere in our body. Stress causes physical problems. Emotional trauma causes physical problems. So, just take it one step further now: limiting beliefs cause an emotional block that keeps us mired in its clutches. The subconscious mind is very powerful and can override conscious thoughts.
So, even though just the title of psychological acupressure can be intimidating, let me give you an introductory lesson on how you can clear these blocks on your own and move past some of these beliefs that are keeping you bogged down.
First of all, you need to do “the reversal.” This is … to reverse the energy system so that it is in line with what you want to do. Another word for it is “will power.” When you feel like you have no will power, it is usually your subconscious overpowering your conscious thoughts and a reversal is what can bring it in sync. It is very simple to do. You simply tap continuously at your karate chop and make the statement: “Even though I don’t want to get over this (whatever emotion you are feeling. i.e. fear, depression, sadness, etc.), I’m okay.” You only do this ONE time at your karate chop point, which is the edge of your hand that hits the board when doing a karate chop, and that is all you do. If you tell your body you do not want something, it reverses your energy so you do. Simplistic approach, but very effective.
So now that we are reversed and our energy is in sync, let’s take a moment to sit down and relax, and take a few minutes to assess where we are in our life and what emotions you are truly feeling. What sentences above triggered a response in us? What emotional traumas do we have? These are the things we need to release. We do this the same way we did the reversal, but with a different set-up statement. These set-up statements would be something like this: “Even though I have overwhelming sadness depressing my whole body, I deeply and completely accept myself,” or “Even though I have this memory of my husband dying during the Holidays three years ago and it feels me with so much sadness, I deeply and completely accept myself,” or “Even though I hate facing my family each year because it fills me with so much anger, I deeply and completely accept myself.” These are just examples of some of the ways to make these statements. You tap continuously while making these statements three times at your karate chop point. Then at each acupressure point, i.e., inner eyebrow, outer eyebrow, under eye, under nose, on chin, collarbone, and under the arm, make the negative part of the statement, i.e. “I am filled with sadness,” “I am so depressed over my husband’s death,” or “I hate being around my family.” Finish all of these statements by tapping continuously on the top of the head while making the statement, “I choose to release these past emotions.”
That is how we clear that limiting thought process. However, as you clear a sentence, pay attention to what you are thinking. If you are clearing the fact that you hate being around your family, and a memory pops into your brain, you need to clear that memory the same way you just cleared the belief. Your body is amazing at how it will bring up issues relating to what you are clearing, but you just need to listen and pay attention to what you are thinking.
So, you are now EMPOWERED with a tool that can change the Holidays forever. The positive energy you send out is what you draw to you. You can, however, choose to tap, or not to tap, but I have now given you the key. The next step is yours.
Ways to Tap In Help
The Clearing Cure
Are you dreading the Holidays? Do the names Christmas and Thanksgiving create stress just by the mere mention of the names? To some the Holidays bring up issues with family, having to be around them, having to get along, meeting new people, in-laws, deaths of loved ones, etc. To others it’s the loneliness and not having anyone to enjoy it with. Then to others it is the money situation, dealing with buying gifts, too many parties, too much to do, etc. Any way you look at it, the Holidays can create stress and depression.
Some of the situations above can also create emotions that are called “limiting beliefs.” These are beliefs that keep us stuck in a cycle. Most of these thought processes or beliefs are ones that lie deep in our subconscious, only rearing their ugly head when we attempt to move past them, or when they are triggered like during the Holiday period. They are very powerful beliefs. Some of these beliefs would be things like, “I will never have enough time to accomplish everything,” “I will never be happy without someone to spend the Holidays with,” “my in-laws will never understand me,””I will never be happy again during the Holidays since my husband died,” and “I hate parties, I’m just not a party person.”
Whether you are confronting “limiting beliefs” or just dealing with the stress of the situation, acupressure can help; however, they can be dealt with in two separate ways. One is using techniques like psychological acupressure to clear out trauma, beliefs, loneliness, etc., and one is more designed to just boost you through emotional times, limiting the stress response in the body and enabling you to get through some stressful moments. I would like to address the stressful situations first.
There are several acupressure points that are designed specifically to deal with stress. The kind of stress is what is important to identify. There are usually five categories of stress to identify. One is the “garbage” stress where you have a swallowed negative emotion. Something that is just useless stress, like saying something stupid and you can’t get it out of your mind. The second kind of stress is familial stress. This also includes people you have taken into your emotional family. The third kind of stress is empathy stress. This is where you try to share someone else’s burden, such as parents with sick children, doctors with patients, a husband taking on his wife’s emotions, etc. The fourth kind of stress is dumped stress, where customers/neighbors, etc dump their emotions on your shoulders and you assume them. The fifth kind of stress is very similar to the dumped stress, but is a family dumped stress, dealing specifically with family.
After identifying which kind of stress you are dealing with, you now are ready to tap out some of that stress. When using acupressure points, you simply tap on the point using two to three fingers and stimulate the meridian underneath it. Meridians are like the veins and arteries of your energy system. They go throughout your whole body and carry an energetic current. Where they come to the surface is what is called an acupressure point and is where you tap.
The points to tap for the stress of garbage that are useless negative emotions that we carry with us, are the xiphoid, glabella, and then your forehead. You tap the xiphoid process six to seven times, which is the end of the sternum where your ribs end, the pointy part, and then tap the glabella, which is in-between your eyebrows six or seven times, and then hold your emotional trigger points for 20 seconds. These points lie in the middle of your forehead just above your eyes. You take two fingers and hold those two points above your eyes for 10-20 seconds.
The other points are all very similar. For familial stress you tap on the xiphoid process six or seven times, and then the liver point, which is right under the right breast, tap this point using the edge of your hand six or seven times, and then the glabella (in-between the eyes) six or seven times. Then hold the emotional trigger points on your forehead for 10-20 seconds as well.
The empathy points are the end of the xiphoid and the third eye point, which is middle of the forehead, and then holding the emotional correction points in the middle of the forehead for 10-20 seconds. Dumped emotional points are the xiphoid, the spleen point, which is under the left breast just to the left of the line of the nipple and in line with the xiphoid, your third eye point, as above, and then holding the emotional corrections points on your forehead for 10-20 seconds. Family dumped is the xiphoid, the spleen, the liver, third eye point, and then emotional correction points for 10-20 seconds. Remember to tap each point six to seven times and hold the emotional correction points for 10-20 seconds.
So, what do you do now for the trauma, and limiting beliefs. If some of the questions above triggered a response and you would like to get past that, then let me introduce you to the new world of “psychological acupressure.” Acupressure itself is known worldwide for targeting blocks in our energy system and clearing that point, thus enabling the energy to flow freely and allowing our body to heal itself. Psychological acupressure is the same concept, only it begins with the belief that emotions have an energetic charge and get stuck somewhere in our body. Stress causes physical problems. Emotional trauma causes physical problems. So, just take it one step further now: limiting beliefs cause an emotional block that keeps us mired in its clutches. The subconscious mind is very powerful and can override conscious thoughts.
So, even though just the title of psychological acupressure can be intimidating, let me give you an introductory lesson on how you can clear these blocks on your own and move past some of these beliefs that are keeping you bogged down.
First of all, you need to do “the reversal.” This is … to reverse the energy system so that it is in line with what you want to do. Another word for it is “will power.” When you feel like you have no will power, it is usually your subconscious overpowering your conscious thoughts and a reversal is what can bring it in sync. It is very simple to do. You simply tap continuously at your karate chop and make the statement: “Even though I don’t want to get over this (whatever emotion you are feeling. i.e. fear, depression, sadness, etc.), I’m okay.” You only do this ONE time at your karate chop point, which is the edge of your hand that hits the board when doing a karate chop, and that is all you do. If you tell your body you do not want something, it reverses your energy so you do. Simplistic approach, but very effective.
So now that we are reversed and our energy is in sync, let’s take a moment to sit down and relax, and take a few minutes to assess where we are in our life and what emotions you are truly feeling. What sentences above triggered a response in us? What emotional traumas do we have? These are the things we need to release. We do this the same way we did the reversal, but with a different set-up statement. These set-up statements would be something like this: “Even though I have overwhelming sadness depressing my whole body, I deeply and completely accept myself,” or “Even though I have this memory of my husband dying during the Holidays three years ago and it feels me with so much sadness, I deeply and completely accept myself,” or “Even though I hate facing my family each year because it fills me with so much anger, I deeply and completely accept myself.” These are just examples of some of the ways to make these statements. You tap continuously while making these statements three times at your karate chop point. Then at each acupressure point, i.e., inner eyebrow, outer eyebrow, under eye, under nose, on chin, collarbone, and under the arm, make the negative part of the statement, i.e. “I am filled with sadness,” “I am so depressed over my husband’s death,” or “I hate being around my family.” Finish all of these statements by tapping continuously on the top of the head while making the statement, “I choose to release these past emotions.”
That is how we clear that limiting thought process. However, as you clear a sentence, pay attention to what you are thinking. If you are clearing the fact that you hate being around your family, and a memory pops into your brain, you need to clear that memory the same way you just cleared the belief. Your body is amazing at how it will bring up issues relating to what you are clearing, but you just need to listen and pay attention to what you are thinking.
So, you are now EMPOWERED with a tool that can change the Holidays forever. The positive energy you send out is what you draw to you. You can, however, choose to tap, or not to tap, but I have now given you the key. The next step is yours.
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